Take her hair, for instance. When she got a pixie cut in November and dyed it hot pink in January, Lovato was slowly breaking out of the pristine heteronormative pop star mold she had been in for a decade. Ultimately, she’s trying to shave her head, and she’s realizing that being in a heteronormative relationship isn’t necessarily the right fit for her. She and ex-fiancé Max Ehrich broke off their engagement after two months (they were dating for six months prior), and if after the storm comes the rainbow, then Lovato found a “huge sign” about her sexuality afterward.
“When I started getting older, I started realizing how queer I really am,” Lovato tells Glamour. “This past year I was engaged to a man, and when it didn’t work, I was like, This is a huge sign. I thought I was going to spend my life with someone. Now that I wasn’t going to, I felt this sense of relief that I could live my truth.”
She includes that being “too queer” to be with a cisgender man is part of her truth, and casual dating is the best avenue for her to explore her sexual identity.
“I hooked up with a girl and was like, ‘I like this a lot more.’ It felt better. It felt right,” she continued. “Some of the guys I was hanging out with — when it would come time to be sexual or intimate, I would have this kind of visceral reaction. Like, ‘I just don’t want to put my mouth there.’ It wasn’t even based on the person it was with. I just found myself really appreciating the friendships of those people more than the romance, and I didn’t want the romance from anybody of the opposite sex.”
Read Lovato’s entire Glamour cover story here.